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2023.03.22

15 ways to lead an unhappy professional life

You have already seen many tips on how to become healthier, happier and wealthier... How many of these tips have you applied, are you already professionally self-realized, rich and ultimately happy? We hear the answer you are not... so with the help of something called reverse engineering, we want to help you on your way to a happy professional life.

 


The human brain is coded to look for threats and dangers - after all, this is how evolutionists explain the formation of a man. Therefore, it is easier for us to focus on what absolutely shouldn't be done than what is necessary to do. Have you ever wondered why you can sometimes exceed the speed limit, but you would never allow yourself to get into a car with the broken brakes? It seems obvious, in the second case, the consequences of an accident or even death are guaranteed.

 


So we're sharing 15 ways that are guaranteed to help you live an unhappy professional life. If you follow these tips, we guarantee that you will get out of bed in the morning without energy and enthusiasm, you will go to work where colleagues and projects will not inspire and develop you. All this for you to live an unhappy and meaningless professional life.

 

Work for a company that doesn't match your values

Managers follow bureaucratic processes, and you empathetic connection with customers? Great, you will be able to complain every day about the illogical decisions of the managers and you will be forced to act against your values.

 

Do a job that doesn't match your strengths

Be a chaotic creator working in a role that requires attention to details. Have a natural talent for communication but never end up in a leadership position - you really don't want to be in your element.

 

Don't be aware of your needs and do a job that doesn't fulfill them

Do not try to understand what is important to you: a flexible schedule, a high salary, a variety of projects or the ambition of colleagues. After all, if you don't know what gives you the most satisfaction, you won't have to choose a job or a company that meets these needs.

 

Work in a job where you have no growth opportunities

Surely you are not the kind of fool who believes that progress brings happiness? Work in a job where there are no higher levels of new knowledge and experience - you are not interested in feeling motivated.

 

Do not develop

What you learned in school and during the first years of your career will be more than enough for you. Don't read books, don't attend conferences, don't be surrounded by ideas and good examples from different industries - you won't apply it in your work, and besides, you don't want to feel competent and creative in your role.

 

Never initiate

You don't want to pay the price of increased responsibility and stress in order to be able to improve, express creativity and even be promoted.

 

Always complain

If you complain a lot, you will be able to live in a negative environment, and the more you complain, the more negativity you will see. In addition, when you complain, you won't have to take any personal responsibility and you won't have to change or do anything yourself - you can just sit in the same place and complain. Isn't it cool?

 

Work in a team that doesn't know how to give feedback

You don't want to receive comments that would help you improve. It is much better to be so insignificant that managers and colleagues do not spare a minute to comment on your work. And of course, what's the motivation for in the first place when you get a pat on the back when you do a good job.

 

Remain in a negative environment, a toxic environment is the best

Do not believe that among the 335 million registered companies on this earth there are some that are great to work for. Do not think that you can choose in what kind of environment, with what kind of people, values ​​and ideas you want to work with. It is better to take the role of the victim and stop dreaming that you deserve better.

 

Do not try to understand your colleagues and managers

You're right - they only want the worst for you and they're not really trying to do their best. Don't even try to ask them why they made certain decisions, you really don't want to know the full story. After all, it is possible that you will find out that no one wanted to harm you and that the compromise was closer than you had expected.

 

Don't ask for advice, don't ask for help, and definitely don't ask for mentorship

Think you can do everything yourself and better take the longer route where the blizzard blows the snow right into your face... Don't try to send a mentorship invitation to a Mentor on the idialogue platform - you don't need someone who has founded 8 businesses or launched 100 successful marketing campaigns to tell you the secrets on how he did it.

 

Don't help others and don't cooperate

You are definitely not a social being whose brain is wired to release more "happiness and meaning" hormones when you help others. You don't need a warm thank you to brighten your day.

 

Always work overtime and remember that completing a project on time is more important than anything else

You want to overwork yourself and no longer feel any motivation, even in the areas where your heart is being excited now. You want your work to be your whole life, because in this case you can ignore all the other problems in your life. Also, when you're old you'll be glad you missed your son's kindergarten party, but instead you wrote the 101st report and you don't even remember what it was about.

 

Pursue only status and money

Ignore all the research studies and stories of people who say that while financial stability and status are important, they are not fulfilling. Work an emotionally draining job because those two weeks in Italy will make up for the next 345 days of misery. In addition, a LinkedIn post that you are the head of the department will make you forget that you never fulfilled your dream of becoming a photographer.

 

Cultivate your limiting beliefs

If you keep telling yourself that you have to work for this consulting company because you will never support yourself and your family as an independent freelancer, you never will. After all, doing the job and staying consistent in your efforts on the way to your dream life will make things happen, and you really don't want that. It is better to tell yourself that it is impossible than to take responsibility and make a long-term effort.

 


We hope that these guarantees will help you understand what you need to do in order to live a happy and self-fulfilling life.

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