Getting stuck in the adult life and relocation to Bali: how to decide for a change?

At one point, Kristina realized that she is "OK" with home, work, children, friends and achievements, but she still seems to be living an uninteresting social life when you are just over thirty. So idialogue Mentor Kristina Dambrauskienė "started" life abroad with her family and now shares her personal story about creating a spectacular life for herself, for which she will thank herself and will have something to remember.

The realization came that it was time for a change

God damn it... we were missing something.. Coaches called it a quest for meaning, and relatives called it an itch for adventures.

For probably about 5 years, we were passively considering in some form and shape the idea about life abroad. We really didn't have one direction or a clear vision of what it would look like and at that time family, work and home were always around - everything went in circles.

I think, in the case of our family, that routine of "adult" people and that predictability of the future had the most influence on the desire to change something.

After the decision - preparation

The decision to leave was followed by the stage of preparation, how and what we leave behind in Vilnius. I have to admit that in order for us to be able to afford to move abroad with our family, we had to make quite a few uncomfortable decisions, some even said that they were not wise. All this - to create those opportunities.

My professional career has not been affected by the location, I work as a freelance marketing consultant and help small businesses and startups create valued and profitable brands, but my husband had to leave his job so that we could go.

We chose to move to Bali and did not consider other alternatives, because we wanted to try life and everyday life outside of Europe and spend time where it is always warm. We knew that here we would meet families who came with similar ideas and desires as ours - to implement ideas, create businesses, expand the circle of acquaintances. By the way, we had visited Bali before, so there were no additional considerations regarding the location.

We did not come to the island to spend the winter, as is perhaps common for many, fleeing the winter in Lithuania. We came with the idea of trying to live here - my children have been attending an international school in Bali for some time and it's definitely not a workation for us, where half the day we are lying by the pool with the computer.

It is important to develop a tolerance for change

There were and still are quite a few fears + responsibility for the "right decision".

Today, when we have already jumped over that ditch of fear, I can say - fear and the shadow of the unknown is much bigger in our heads than when we face it face to face. And beliefs are like that treasure hunt - you've never seen it yourself, you've only heard many people talk about it.

Of course, I think there is no single answer because we are all different and our tolerance for change varies as well. I also understand that it's not about "need" but about the "want" concept - it's great fun to fulfill your dreams, when you fulfill one, then the others seem really doable.

The ability to accept not only the possibilities, but also the consequences

I will tell you very simply - coaching, mentoring and all other similar things enable us to be stronger. Stronger in your truth and choices.

It is important to be able to accept both the possibilities and the consequences of a change, especially when it affects not only me, but also my family or clients. With that "full" responsibility, you know how it is - both very nice and sometimes very painful, but it really builds a serious muscle. It is important to let go of the desire to control everything and always - at least this is my experience and thoughts on this matter.

Let's live our finest lives

So, my wish - let's live our finest lives - you will thank yourself for it and there will be more to remember.